Steve and I were sitting on the front porch steps last night watching Trynica run around. She would run from one end of our yard to the other, spin around, and say, “I want much more than this ovential [provincial] life!” Then she would walk around holding up a book in front of her face, then come up to me and say, “I just finished the most wonderful story about a beanstalk and an ogre!” Then she would go sit on the edge of the lawn and talk to imaginary sheep sitting to either side of her…this is her life right now, acting out scenes from Beauty and the Beast. This is our life.
This also leads to dramatized reactions to other things. For example, on Sunday morning I was trying to get a sliver out of Steve’s foot. Tryn walked up and put her hand over her mouth with the exclamation, “Oh!” Then, with her hand moved up to cover her eyes, she said, “That is so gross!” Hilarious.
Tryn loves to dance, loves to sing, and loves to walk around the house pretending to play instruments (especially the trumpet and trombone). She loves to act out scenes from movies.
Here is my serious question: Do we pursue that or run the other way as fast as we can (i.e. ignore it for as long as possible:))?
I always said that I would want to and let my kids be whatever they wanted to be. However, as much as I love dancing and would love to go to every single dance recital, I don’t want Tryn to be a dancer. The majority of dancers are anorexic and deal with lots of broken bones and joint issues. I also don’t want Tryn to be an actress. I don’t want her to end up with that kind of unhealthy lifestyle that many actresses have and I don’t want her life to be that publicized. She is too sensitive to have the harsh life of an actress. Maybe she could be a singer, but that is also a hard life. Now, these are all to the grandest extreme that acting, dancing, or singing could lead to…however, I feel like the fact that we can see these things in her at such a young age could really bring her somewhere far along those roads.
I always said that I would work to notice what my kids were good at and really develop them in those areas. If they were good athletes I would notice that and make sure they were able to use that skill. If they were good at math or sewing or art or science, I would try to notice that and really encourage them in those areas. I don’t want their natural abilities and talents to be wasted.
But, here I am, struggling over the decision to enter Tryn in some dance classes for the fall. She would love it. And it could be nothing, just something fun for her to do. But it could be something…I know, I know, I should just not worry about it. And believe me, we are going to just let her be a kid no matter what. No pressure to do anything or be anything when she is 5 years old, which is ridiculous. However, if I was going to stick true to my promise to myself that I would develop the natural talents of my kids, I should really get her dance lessons. Or music lessons.
For those of you who don’t know, my amazing and musically gifted husband Steve has had about three years of piano lessons his entire life…two of those years were in college. He has never had guitar lessons and plays guitar in front of hundreds of people every week. So, this is a topic that hits close to home for us. Steve is not unhappy with his life or where he is at, but his life could be vastly different if he had taken music lessons from the time he was three. So, I am just thinking, "Why couldn't she be really good at coloring or drawing?" :)
What do you think? I am looking for any opinions, so don’t be afraid to be honest! Please let me know what you think...whatever that might be.